Welcome

Most of us long to touch and be touched in a timeless, heartfelt way. We long to feel accepted and cherished for the unique, sensual beings we are. We long to reclaim the precious, soft parts of ourselves, which like a compass, steer us to freedom and grace.

Mature and wise in my body, I’m a PhD. Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Surrogate Partner Therapist, Sacred Intimate, and founder of the BodyJoy Intimacy School, Austin, TX, where thousands of students have learned simple and profound ways to touch, talk and play together that feel safe and sensual. I’m the author of Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal (available in 7 languages) and 8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters that Inspire Great Sex for a Lifetime.

I’ve produced two award-winning solo shows, Naked at My Age, about becoming a sex worker in my 50s, and Tales of Sex Magic & Healing, brave and warm stories from a 20-year career as Erotic Muse/ Healer. View them on the links below.  All proceeds go to decriminalizing sex work. I invite you to be in touch more regularly by joining me on Patreon. I offer Intimacy Coaching, in-person (Portland), or on zoom. Good lovers are made, not born.

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View Charla’s show, Naked at My Age

A grandma’s surprising Sexual Renaissance, fraught with difficult and isolating choices, leads to risk, lust and healing in the world’s Oldest Profession. Charla seduces you with vulnerable stores from her 20-year pioneering career as Erotic Muse/ Healer.  

The Passionate Fairy Godmother normalizes sex work and continues to expand the definition of sex. An award-winning show from Portland, OR, Charla brings her boa and Invisible Rope within the hour she will tie you up and Mae-West you over!

Performances

Praise for Naked at My Age

–“The most incredible shame-busting, heart-soul opening, masterful performance ever.” Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D, erotic educator
–“I use Charla’s video in my professional Sexological Bodywork trainings.” Joseph Kramer, founder of Body Electric and Sexological Bodywork
–“What an incredibly unique, under-heard set of stories—powerfully, sensually & bravely embodied by Charla.” Dr. Betty Martin, Wheel of Consent
–“I’ve been a sex-positive activist for over ten years. I’ve read the books, joined the clubs, done my own shows; Naked is the end of the rainbow for me. Well done, Sister. You are an inspiration to all. XOXO Shannon

View Charla’s show, Tales of Sex Magic & Healing

A kind of sexual fairy godmother, Charla, in Tales of Sex Magic & Healing shares brave stories from her 20-year career as Erotic Muse/ Healer. Who seeks sex professionals? Why? What are sessions like? Can intimacy be taught? Her vulnerable stories include us, help us, and encourage us to trust and tell our own.  Meet Dr. Charla’s clients…

  • A sixty-eight-year-old virgin travels cross country to attend her erotic massage class, “I’ve never touched a vulva before.”
  • A woman ponders over her choices during a Bossy Massage, “What DO I want?”
  • At a bachelorette party, Charla pulls out her ‘invisible rope’ and the women learn to take the lead.
  • Her Uncle Ben starts dressing ‘like a lady’ when he’s 85 years old, “I didn’t expect to live this long—Now, I’m going to be me.”

Praise for Tales of Sex Magic


—“Charla lands an incredibly touchy subject with such grace and spirit. I cheered our ‘Lady of the Night’ as she becomes The New Age Sexual Healer!” Michael Castleman
“Loved Charla singing “Go Straight for the Goods, Dude.” Her theater skills are top rate. I wanna be like her someday.” Meg
“Masterful story telling, Charla conveys warmth and hospitality, and the audience eats it up.” – Mark Schoen, Sex Smart Film
“Charla brilliantly changes the meaning of erotic storytelling, throwing in tidbits of sex education the average person can absorb.” Deborah Sundahl

Want to be more in touch? Join me on Patreon

If you like what I’m about, and want to support my work, and be in regular contact — Join me on Patreon.

For just a few dollars a month (cancel anytime), you’ll receive, once a month or so, my latest musings as a Mature Sensualist, “What’s new in my erotic world? How can I be a catalyst for your intimate longings and adventures? How can we encourage each other?”

I’m your personal Muse…feeding you tasty morsels from my seasoned, sensual life!

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Intimacy Coaching with Charla

We tune-up our cars regularly, so why not our relationships? Intimacy is the soft, underbelly of life that soothes, carries us away, and excites. We deserve a good ride.

As your coach, I help you notice what you want — it is different than what you are ‘willing to give’ or ‘allow to have happen’ to you. As you feel more adept and comfortable with noticing your desires, you learn to value, trust and communicate them. Desires are our highest intelligence.

I believe choosing what you want on your body is a Spiritual Act…more important than any fancy strokes we do on each other.

The ability to feel more in the body, expand our choices when enjoying a partner(s), making clear requests, respecting a partner’s limitations, and finding your shared ‘yeses’ is a learnable skill. It’s the heart and soul of intimate joy and pleasure. Please review Intimacy Coaching before contacting me.

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Featured Post: Pornography Pros & Cons and How to Watch it

I Like that You Enjoy My Touch
I asked a male companion what he liked best about me after we’d spent a few days together. It was kinda a dare, but I was in the mood to hear something good about myself. He answered easily,
Pornography Pros & Cons and How to Watch it
As a sex and intimacy coach, I decided, since porn is a big part of today’s sex scene, I’d better know more about it, so I spent a good couple of months watching…lots.  Very

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