Phd, Storyteller, Author, Intimacy Coach, Portland, OR
I asked a male companion what he liked best about me after we’d spent a few days together. It was kinda a dare, but I was in the mood to hear something good about myself. He answered easily, ”You seem to really enjoy being touched.” And he added, “And you seem to enjoy touching me.”
Big Pharma’s spent billions on a female Viagra. Women now suffer from–drum roll–Low Sexual Desire that can be fixed with Big Pharma’s answer—a new drug, Flibanserin.
A friend shared a dating book with me that made a huge difference in his shy, inexperienced life—you’d never recognize that in him now! I gleaned a few new tips. Don’t read on if you’re stuck on finding ‘The One.’ I’m personally giving it up for awhile. (more…)
Charla busts 8 Myths of Sex and Aging: Orgasms, Cougars, Wizards, and more (more…)
As a sex and intimacy coach, I decided, since porn is a big part of today’s sex scene, I’d better know more about it, so I spent a good couple of months watching…lots. Very interesting experiment, I didn’t even need a vibrator. Instead of trying to answer whether pornography is good or bad, I decided you need to know:
A young man comes to see me for sex coaching who is feeling shy, awkward and inexperienced with his older girlfriend. She usually initiates their sex and says she wants more passion from him. He really likes her and even thinks she’s the one–yet, the sex part of the relationship causes him much worry because he often comes too soon.
He discloses that he relates closely with Peter Pan and Dionysus, one holds the key to Neverland and the other ‘Pan’, is god of sensuality and celebration. He desires to grow a spiritual aspect to his sexuality and asks me if I would like to play the role of Wendy or Diana with him in this session? (more…)
Ask yourself, “How does it feel to be loved by someone?” And then ask, “How does it feel to be desired by someone?” You may be surprised how differently love and desire feel in relationship. Being loved feels comfortable, secure, anchored, being taken care of. Love feels safe and secure, like a melting together.
Yet, love is not always enough. (more…)
This article first appeared in Liv Fun magazine and appears here with permission.
“Does sex get better or worse as you age?” my students ask me. “Well,” I reflect, “that depends on what you mean by ‘sex.’
How often do you get an invitation to strip in public and call it art? So when my local nudist club suggested to artist George Krause that we attend the wine and cheese opening of his life-size nude photographs and strip naked while we do it, he jumped at the chance. Performance art. We were making history, people stripping at a public art opening! Well, NYC and LA eat your heart out, come to Austin if you want weird. (more…)