About Charla

I believe good lovers are made, not born. I believe accurate, positive sex education is a basic human right, and it can change your life.

I received my PhD. in clinical sexology at the Institute for the Advanced Studies of Human Sexuality with a specialty in teaching intimacy. I’m a Certified Surrogate Partner Therapist through the Institute for Mind Body Therapy. My books on enhancing intimate relationships, 8 Erotic Nights and Erotic Massage, have been translated into many languages. I’m a certified Sexological Bodyworker, and studied to be a Sacred Intimate at The Body Electric School. I’ve studied Tantra and sensual massage at Esalen Institute.

As founder of Austin’s BodyJoy Intimacy School, for twenty years I help thousands of students learn new ways to touch, talk and play (that feel safe and authentic) in classes, workshops, retreats, Meet up groups, newsletters, as well as private sessions. I encourage students to slow down, listen to their body, value their desires, articulate them, change their minds, and always respect the choices and boundaries of their partner(s). Recently, I turned the reins of  my school, BodyJoy, over to my mentorie, Melissa D.

I’ve presented at national conferences including the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, have written numerous magazine articles, was a columnist for my local newspaper for ten years, taught erotic massage classes around the world and on international cruises.  Producing two solo shows on sex work, my first short video, Uncle Bob is Dressing Like a Lady, won the People’s Choice award at Austin’s Erotic Film Festival.

I’m grateful for the gifts aging brings to my body and relationships  I feel more pleasure, curiosity, and aliveness–along with ease and appreciation.  Being authentic in the bedroom, spirals into confidence in the boardroom…and all life.  When we honor our bodies and give voice to our desires while respecting other people’s choices, we feel the joy of intimacy.