As men you are often concerned with giving someone else pleasure or doing her. You can become so preoccupied about performing that you miss your own pleasure. Sex can seem like a set of obstacles (for you both!) By trying to please her and give her an orgasm, you lose touch with feeling your own body’s sensations.
Further, as a man you’ve been conditioned from a young age not to trust your “feeling body” or show your emotions, which can make it hard to connect with women who do. Often to keep from coming too early, you would disassociate from your body. You learned to masturbate quickly and silently which does not prepare you for a sustained dance of lovemaking with a partner.
In private Coaching sessions, guided by your intentions, we practice your next steps in finding more pleasure and connection in intimacy. You reclaim the natural joy of noticing, experiencing and being your body, rather than thinking, judging and controlling. You learn how to orchestrate erotic encounters founded in choice and consent that feel safe, spontaneous and engaging with a partner. Coaching sessions are clothes on with sensual not sexual touching,
In private bodywork sessions, guided by your intentions, you learn new ways to relate to your body that enhance intimacy and pleasure both for yourself and a partner. In bodywork sessions you practice techniques for being present, breathing, and sensate focus that translate into increased sensation and prolong pleasure for you. Bodywork session may include nudity (you, not me) and whole body touch (me to you) for the purpose of erotic self awareness, transformation, healing and growth.
Sex coaching for Men may involve:
- Natural Aging: Understanding the changes in libido, arousal, stimulation needs, and opportunities that come with maturing–Getting older/Getting better.
- Erections: Gaining mastery over if and when to ejaculate.
- The Male Prostate: Learning about the male “G” spot for pleasure and health.
- Evolutionary Masturbation: Changing solo sex routines that will improve your partner sex.
- Intimacy: Reconnecting sexually with yourself and enticing a less interested partner back into the game.
- Life changes: Gaining confidence after divorce, medical issues, or death of loved ones.
- Shyness: Overcoming lack of experience or a negative body image.
- Sacred Sexuality: Joining Eros and Spirit for heartfelt, prolonged connection.
- Becoming multi-orgasmic: Separating orgasm from ejaculation for health, potency, and pleasure.
- Power and Surrender in Intimacy: Exploring conscious power exchange and fantasy play.
Both coaching and bodywork sessions are more than technique. It’s much deeper. It’s what makes all your technique work. As your teacher I guide your journey, moment by moment, breath by breath, deep into the heart of your sexuality. You enhance erotic self-trust, self-expression, and self-care. An investment in lifelong pleasure and intimacy starts here, whether in person or by phone.
Testimonials from Men after sessions with Charla:
- “I want to embrace your braveness, you are teaching me how to love my body. After the ‘Right Now I Notice’ game, I feel like I’ve had a sensation bath!”
- “My friends say they notice a difference in me just walking into the room. I hug so warmly, not stiff anymore.”
- “I loved ‘yinning out,’ I never had permission to be so yin. I could feel without any thoughts, it was like you played with my soul outside of my body.”
- “I learned more about consent and intimate communication in my coaching session than in any workshop I’ve attended.”
- “I‘ve tried sex therapy in the past from mental health professionals, and it wasn’t helpful. It was like taking skiing lessons by going to an office and talking about it. Your approach is the only way. You obviously love teaching people intimacy skills and you’re good at it.”