Author Archive: Charla

For most of human history, we lived in rather small tribes gathering the bounty of an abundant, relatively uninhabited planet. Our ancestors spent most of their day playing, grooming, cuddling, napping, conversing…and having casual sex.  For safety and perseverance, human groups thrived on sharing and bonding.  Touch was the social glue.

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No matter how well you kiss or not, you can take your kissing skill to the next level.  If you don’t get kissing right, things will not progress. Kissing is the testing ground for going deeper.  You can learn to navigate juicy kissing territory with greater confidence, success and passion.  Great kissers are not born, they are made. (more…)

I showed up for my first improv acting class feeling like a fish out of water.  What was I doing with all these brave, hip youngsters who ‘stream consciousness’ from iPhones and now, the theatre stage?

I feared I didn’t share the same TV shows, movies, music, or pop idols–how would that work for improvising together?  Our two improv teachers (not yet thirty, I guessed) were enthusiastically sharing the rules for theatre sports at our first class. (more…)

I sought out the sauna at my local gym wanting to get warm after three solid weeks of hard Austin winter.  After saying ‘hi’ to a woman on the lower bench we started talking about her philosophy class.  She said the men in her philosophy class didn’t want to ‘hear‘ her feminine perspective.  I told her the men who come to see me as a sex and intimacy coach–really want to hear my perspective.

I shared how men often look me in the eye and say, without a doubt, they are clueless when it comes to pleasing a woman in bed. Men offer me more vulnerability and honesty in a few minutes of talk than they’ve probably shared with their partners in decades of marriage.  My new sauna friend was intrigued. She’d never heard of an intimacy coach.  “Sex is always so hush, hush,” she said, “We grope in the dark guessing and hoping we’ll get it right.” (more…)