Finding the Sweet Spot Intimacy Workshop

Finding the Sweet Spot Retreat: for Couples & Paired Friends

Many hands with fingers intertwined showing connection.

Feb 8-15, 2025 – $4600/couple before Nov 1, double occupancy, limit 6 couples

Warning: this workshop may be hazardous to your status quo.

Mmm, that glorious moment when we are giving (or getting) exactly the touch that feels good on our body! Sometimes we find that “sweet spot” magically, but more often, we find it through clear communication and feedback.

We’ve all learned to perform and take care of the other person during sex. Many of us say “yes” to things we don’t actually want out of fear of losing connection. We’ve grown accustom to tolerating and going along with touch that may be close, but not exactly what we want.  We get into routines.

No more, with Dr. Charla you’ll learn NEW ways to touch, talk and play together. You’ll engage your senses, inventing play that’s spontaneous and surprising. You’ll practice finding, trusting and expressing your deepest longings…as they emerge…in a safe place…with ease.  Ah, the sweet spot!

Charla’s experiential activities, taken from her books, 8 Erotic Nights and Erotic Massage, and 20 years of teaching intimacy, will profoundly deepen your loving. Exercises are gentle, sensual, not sexual, and clothes stay on. She offers a demonstration of her signature Erotic Massage, translated into 7 languages, on both a male and female live models.  You will learn…

  • How ‘wanting’ is different from ‘willing”
  • ‘Hell Yes’ is different from ‘yes’
  • How to turn OK touch into FABULOUS
  • How to slow down to the Speed of Love

Welcome couples who have been together a long time, or have just met, and paired friends who want to take new skills forward. Michelle Fleming, our hostess and morning yoga teacher, will teach Thai Massage and pamper you at her eco-friendly resort.  She is the reason I am coming back!  All classes and activities are voluntary, sometimes you may choose to observe. Vote with your feet…and stroll the beach anytime! You’re on vacation and there’s ample time to enjoy it!

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Praise for Finding the Sweet Spot:

  • The workshop was like an emotional hot meal and welcoming safe place to rest and be held.
  • Charla created a space where I didn’t have to try. I let go of story. I found my quiet and still.
  • There is no right or wrong her workshop activities. Everything feels so right.
  • After 37 years of marriage I found what I thought was slow, was not slow enough. I’m glad I can still learn.
  • I could feel the pull of my own desire for the first time in years. We’ve been so close since the retreat.
  • I feel like my partner played with my soul outside of my body.

Register here, and more info and photos accommodations, beach, and extra activities.  After Dec 1, tuition goes up $200/person.

 

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